don't you dare

Don't you dare attack, however indirectly, my parenting. I am around my children 24 hours every single day of the week and have adopted effective disciplining of my children which will involve yelling when someone is in danger or raising my voice when I am on the aforewarned third time saying something (which I preface with a "I will tell you nicely twice. The third time will not be so nice.").

Don't you dare even insinuate that the children seem to cower to you when you raise your voice to them as a result of my somehow abusive nature toward them. Be a fly on the wall one day. I think you would be damn impressed in my management of the children and, consequently, the mutual respect and confidence we enjoy and continue to develop.

Perhaps it is because you never raise your voice to them (and they walk all over you), that they cower to your voice on the rare occasions it becomes authoritarian. You do not separate them nicely and peacefully when they are bugging each other; neither do you let them work it out for themselves. You get involved and raise your voice...then have the gall to accuse me of improperly raising my voice withe the children. I usually tell them, more in an exasperated tone rather than out of anger, to go have some alone time for fifteen minutes. That solves the issue with no voices raised, no time-outs, no fears and no tears.

Don't you dare corner me while I am in MY bathroom and accuse me of maltreating my children. You have no right, especially when I actually take the time to be with them, learn how to work with them in order to effectively discipline (both positively and negatively) and don't just stick them in front of the TV or let them onto the computer whenever we have time together. I do not hit my children with wooden spoons...and yes, I know people who do. I have spanked my son once and only once--ever. I have never spanked my daughter. Maybe you should hang out with other parents and children and see, if you can get out of your own little ideal world in which everything is always hunky-dory, how The Real World is...maybe then you would come to understand that my children are the respectful, well-balanced, active, healthy, happy and well-adjusted children they are because of ME, my attentions and my parenting.

And don't you dare forget that.