domingo, 30 de diciembre de 2007

physical contact

Totally spur-of-the-moment, I went with Princess from Neighboring Village for a pedicure.

Oh. My. Gosh.

I haven't had any spa treatment at all in...hmm...let's see...4 1/2 years. And no pedicure in longer than that.

Queen from Neighboring Village and I first took the chariot on a run to the store, then to the spa. It was the same spa--actually, new name and different look and service, but same place--that I had been to the last time, over 4 years ago, the week I miscarried.

So that was good, to kind-of undo old, icky memories, in a way.

I ended up with a Spa Pedicure (how that is different than a regular one I will never know except that it cost $10 more) and it was D.I.V.I.N.E.

I sat back in the massage chair and let her do her magic.

It felt so good just to have physical contact with some other human being (other than my darling children, of course...this was All For Me) that I could have cried.

I have missed physical contact. I need touch. I need to be touched. I don't have adult physical contact in my life and I miss it so very much. I crave it.

I think this will be part of my Improving Me recipe for 2008. A bit cost prohibitive but, will some sacrifice here and there I will make it work.

I deserve it.

In the process, however, I forgot to eat. I haven't had anything to eat since 9:30 this morning and am dying, so ta ta for now.
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  1. Anónimo30 de diciembre de 2007, 16:42

    All I can say Is "WOW"..

    I can relate in a way you just don't know..

    Physical touch from another member of my species? Yeah right... (I'm not even talking intimate here, either )

    It's been a long time..

    I don't even know what I would do besides tense up, or shy away from it. It seems so foreign to me now.

    I guess I've been without it for a so long, I've sort of turned into Tom Hanks in "Castaway"..

    What a shame..

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  2. Anónimo30 de diciembre de 2007, 17:21

    Such a misconception is so common here, isn't it? Touch does not have to be intimate; it can be so innocent as a hug, a pat on the shoulder, a handshake even...

    A child's touch is genuine, but there is an essence of necessity in their touch that is vital to their growth and definition as human beings. As adults, we don't stop defining ourselves but we do seek out and require touch for so many more different reasons...sometimes just to be reminded that no, we are not all alone operating in our own untouchable bubbles.

    To be honest, today I almost jumped out of the chair when the nice lady reached for my calf or ankle. She gestured for me to turn on my massage chair so I would just calm down and relax.

    It is not easy. And I hate the fact that I have to search it out and pay for it. But así es la vida, ¿no?

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  3. Anónimo30 de diciembre de 2007, 18:12

    Perhaps you should check some of your old spa gift cards and see if they are still valid...

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  4. Anónimo30 de diciembre de 2007, 18:30

    Ah, She-ra...you would have loved it. Next time, Princess of ??, we must do a two-some, ¿no?

    Alas, the cards have long ago expired, but the good wishes remain in my heart...

    And...Happy Anniversary, my dear. Do I watch your young heirs to your throne tomorrow night???

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  5. Anónimo30 de diciembre de 2007, 18:31

    We ALL need human touch.. The soothing kind..

    We thrive on it. Just look at the "wire monkey vs. terrycloth monkey" experiments..

    I totally agree.. A simple hand on the shoulder, or a rubbing of the back can be an absolute emotional anchor for someone.

    A pat on the back from a stranger can be tonic for the soul, even if no one realizes it.

    P.S. I'd hug Ya

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  6. Anónimo30 de diciembre de 2007, 18:49

    You know, Windrider, the 2nd In Line to the Throne (my princesita) is a hugger. She has been known to, as long as she has been able to walk, go right up to a stranger in a store or in public and just give them a hug...something at 6 years old she still does. And the greatest thing? Such an action is more often than not met with this comment: 'You don't know how much I needed that today.'

    I am convinced that hugs...especially hers, but I'm partial...can bring about World Peace.

    Virtual hug back atcha!

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  7. Anónimo31 de diciembre de 2007, 7:29

    I'm a hugger. I'll admit it.

    Touch is vital and I'm all for it as long as I am comfortable with the toucher or touchee.

    I have a friend who is a massage therapist. Don't think I could go to someone else. It's just too personal to me.

    But a pedicure? OMG... How awesome is that?

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